In a recent article, we took a look at why honesty is so important when taking steps toward the life you want to be living. We discussed why you first have to be honest with yourself about what you want, and why it’s so important to speak openly with your life coach so that she can guide you in the right direction. Of course, letting family and friends know about the changes in your life — and letting them know why such changes are important to you — is also important.
So, with honesty being vital in all of these relationships, why is it so difficult for most people to commit to? Why can it be nearly impossible to admit to professional life coaches, family members, and even oneself that a life change is necessary in order to feel fulfilled? Let’s take a look at some of the most common reasons that people will avoid change
“Good Enough Is Good Enough”
This is certainly one of the primary reasons that people choose to tamp down their true feelings about their future, and the one we focused on in this article about honesty. If you’ve made it to a respectable level in your chosen career, why not just enjoy the status quo? Why take the risk of making things better when they might actually turn out worse?
It’s very easy to let things stay as they are, to let the days go by while telling yourself that upheaval isn’t what you want. But you also have to ask yourself “if things do stay as they are, will I be able to thrive?” Yes, it’s much easier to be less-than-honest with yourself and say that that “good enough is good enough.” But is it really?
“What If I Fail?”
The fact is, this is a legitimate question and one that many people will avoid if possible. It’s just easier to not even question your current path if you don’t have to ask yourself, “What if I fail?”
If you are honest with yourself and need a change, go ahead and ask that question. “What if I fail?” The fact is, there’s nothing wrong with failure. The first thing you try might not be exactly what you need, but it will almost certainly give you insight into what you do want to do. The big difference is that people who work with a life coach are more likely to find their success much faster than those who don’t have such guidance.
“What If I Succeed?”
Success is what we all want…so why can it be so scary?
Some people won’t admit that their current lives aren’t fulfilling because something better would upset the status quo. (The status quo has killed many dreams over the years.) It’s much easier to let things stay as they are, because admitting you want more could create too much flux in your life. Unfortunately, the problems of a new career are often overestimated (because they’re unknown) and problems associated with a current, unsatisfying career are often underestimated (because they’re known). This leads people to be dishonest with themselves and decide that everything is just fine as it currently is…even if it’s not.
“That’s Not What I Was Trained For”
Sometimes the honesty of what we really want in life will break through…only to be beaten back by what we think of as our logical side!
Let’s take, for example, someone who’s made a career in marketing. That made sense for who they were in college, but the fact is that we all change and grow over the years; maybe marketing isn’t what they want to do. But when something new comes along that truly interests them, it’s easy to say, “That’s not what I was trained for.” Unfortunately, it can be easy to talk yourself out of change simply because of a college major you choose 10, 20, 30, or even 40 years ago.
When you work with a life coach, transitions from one type of work to another can become much more clear. Whether you want a complete career break or are interested in fitting your current talents into another industry, professional life coaches like those you’ll find at Be You, Live Big can give you the tools you need to make it happen.
“Everyone Is Already Proud of Me”
This one pulls so many of our previous points and rolls them into one.
- Status quo: “I’ve made it, why change?” If you have people who look up to you and admire you — children, spouses, friends, parents — why shake things up?
- What If I Fail: If you try something new and it doesn’t work out, what will others think of me?
- That’s Not What I Was Trained For: Sometimes people still living with the expectations of their parents, those who might be incredibly happy that their child is a doctor or a lawyer. After all, they went to school to school for your doctorate, why throw that away?
But if you’re honest, you have to ask, “Am I proud of myself?” Sure, you might be proud of your accomplishments, but would you be more proud if you took a chance at change and being who you really are?
“Someone Will Laugh At Me”
So what? Even if what you’re looking for is a bit off the beaten path, It’s better to be happy doing what you want to do.
Are You Ready To Be Honest?
As you can see, it’s very easy to lie to yourself and say that everything is fine…so long that it helps you avoid the points we’ve addressed in this article. But sometimes those questions and statements should be explored, because if you’re honest with yourself it’s important to know that those things getting in the way of your happiness can be surmounted (or steamrollered right over!)
Admitting that you’re looking for something else to make you happy in your work is the first step, but after that it’s important to gain some guidance from professionals. Be You, Live Big has a collection of life coaches, image consultants, movement coaches, and personal shoppers at the ready in order to get you ready for that next challenge in your life, one that will fulfill you in new ways. Find out more about our life coaching programs right here!